Protecting the most vulnerable: Why aren’t you angry?

11 Nov

“The question isn’t why people are angry, the question is why you aren’t.”


I’ve been thinking about the unintended consequences of this “policy change.” Who is the most likely to be most hurt by the policies and the messages being sent by how the church has decided to deal with members of the LGBTQ community. Not that there isn’t enough hurt to go around but, is it adults in stable, loving relationships who are hurt the most? Is it their children?

I read this story posted on Facebook and realized that there is an entire subset of people we’ve (or at least I’ve) overlooked.

The straight, married couples who stay in the church, have a bunch of babies, go to church every Sunday, pay their tithing, love the prophet, don’t drink coffee and go to the temple weekly. Those people? They’re the perfect mormon couples who has a gay child and doesn’t even know it. That child should be our top concern.

“The first time I tried to commit suicide I was 14 years old.

The second time I was 15.

The third I was 20 and on my mission.”

That gay mormon child who will keep attending church. Those mormon kids who hear (through these actions) they are so unwanted that even their unborn children won’t be accepted.

These gay children who haven’t come out yet, who are already in a dangerous environment that was just made even more dangerous.

The results are tragic. The result is too often death.

Excluding anyone based on sexual orientation sends a message, it doesn’t matter how much you proclaim your message is love if it’s heard as exclusion, fear and hate.


Now what if that gay mormon child is yours? Or your niece or nephew? Or your granddaughter or grandson?  What then? Is your church worth more than their life? Because if it is then maybe you need to re-evaluate your priorities.

From Fox 13 in SLC: 

SALT LAKE CITY– Professionals working on the front lines of suicide prevention say they’re handling a higher volume of calls since last Thursday.

Studies show LGBTQ youth are four times more likely to attempt suicide than their straight peers — that’s why advocates are urging teens to speak up and for parents to listen.

If you know someone who is struggling with suicidal thoughts, they can call or text Trevor Lifeline at 866-488-7386. For more information, visit

Help is available 24/7.

For parents who are looking for some guidance, there is a community forum being held Wednesday from 7 to 9 p.m. at Rowland Hall, located at 843 Lincoln St. in Salt Lake City. It is an opportunity to connect with advocates and learn more about resources available.

As always, if you need someone to talk to, send me a note. ❤

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Posted by on November 11, 2015 in homosexuality, LDS church, mormons


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